Could use some thoughts on this...

[bludigits]

Blessings,

Haven't been in for a moment, but I have been recommending the forum.
*twinkling smile*

I am also LOVING Kundalini Reiki so much...
It is fantastic.

I do have an issue though...

I was speaking with my Mom about one of her in-laws.
He is very troubled, and seems to be very far gone, having been abused as a child.

I have read that it is customary to ask someone if they would like healing before actually doing distance Reiki.
However he may not be in the mind to really understand what it is, and who knows if anyone could get in touch with him to ask...

He needs help. Achingly so, and it pulled at my heart strings to hear his story.

He has been the victim of sexual molestation as a child as well as sexual assault as a teen, by several men.

He did not recieve therapy for this, and has become a drug user over the years, and has abusive tendencies.
He is reputed to be full of anger.

Would it be unethical for me to send healing distance reiki to him, without his permission, do you think?

I mean, when I pray for someone I don't ask permission of the person I am praying for, so I was wondering if there is really a difference.

Any thoughts on this?

This situation is a little heavy on my heart for some reason, and I would like to help him.
I have never met him, but still feel concern all the same.

Thankyou kindly for your time and consideration, as well as any thoughts you might be able to provide.

Blessings, Love&Light to you,

Blu

[Mickuk]

Hi Blue,

Not a easy one for me but he has been through a lot and we don't know his state of mind ?

I think that a person should ask him if he would like to receive distant healing, in cases where people are unable to say yes or no then sending them healing is ok, what you can do is send him reiki but before sending ask that he receives healing for his highest good and that any rejected energy goes to where it is needed, you will probably know if he is drawing the reiki energy by the heat in your hands

love,
mick

if he does say yes please let us know and we will send him reiki daily.

[stef]

Hi Blu

This is always a difficult situation, and it is something that people will always question.

Ethically, we are told that we should not send Reiki to a person without their permission, but sometimes we feel that we really want to help this person.

I have been in a position where I wanted to help someone with Reiki, but that person had told me that they did not want REiki, so I could not treat that person........until he eventually decided to change his mind and ask me for a treatment

I am always happy to send Reiki to people who have been affected by natural disasters, and I am sending Reiki to all the families and friends of the miners that died recently in the US even though I don't have their permission. I send REiki for their highest good and ask that if they don't want to recieve it, it is passed on to where it is needed.

There is a difference between sending without permission, and sending to people who have said "no". Sometimes it is not possible to ask for permission....maybe for someone in a coma or someone who has difficulties understanding what Reiki is. In these cases you must use your intuition.

It is up to you to decide whether to send Reiki to this person......But if you feel that you must do something, then do as Mick suggests and send Reiki for his highest good and intend that if it is rejected, it is passed on to where it is needed......that way you are still giving him the choice of whether to recieve it or reject it.

I hope that this helps

love
stef

[bludigits]

Thankyou so much for replying so soon!

I will follow my intuition.

I feel his soul does want this, but I will wait until it feels right.
I can ask my mother to send along my offer, and stay within the ethical realm.

There was just such an urgent feeling I recieved that he needs this help.
And as an empath, my intuitions have always been an accurate guide.
At the same time, I don't want to get ahead of myself.

Freewill is of ultimate importance.

His story pained my heart.
I have prayed on it.
So in time, I will know what to do.

Thankyou again.
Thankyou so much.

Blessings, love&light
-Blu

[paul]

I also agree with Mick and Stef but i feel you also will know what to do within yourself. I used to work with young people whom had also had a very rough start in their life, but sometimes if you ask you may be surprised by their reply to distant healing. I found that sometimes it was not their lack of understanding but my lack of understanding them, that placed doubt in my mind. I think if it is sent for the highest good and intent, but you feel it is rejected, as long as it is passed on to where it is needed, you are in someway giving them the option to receive healing. If you can ask somehow, if they wish to receive distant healing and they accept please let me know as i also will send Reiki for this person.

Love Paul

[anand]

Dear Blu,
Reiki flowing for healing your Mom's -in-law, who is troubled, and for his highest good. Reiki is intelligent and when channelised by us channels, it gets absorbed by the recipient in accordance with his needs.
So I feel that someone needs Reiki and I channelise it to him. Now, his inner guide, on receipt of the energy interacts with the intelligence universal energy of love and opens up or closes as the need be. So thats freewill acting on the recpient acting at the level of energy plane. Freewill at the concious plane may be different from that on the energy plane. And at that plane the universal energy is the best reader of Freewill.
love anand

[Michael]

Hi Blu

I strongly believe that people must come to the point that they ask for help themselves... not that Reiki wouldn't work but because of the individual's freedom of choice. If you feel strong about this, perhaps you should make contact and offer your services...

I've recently read about a modality called Violet Flame that is supposet to be useful treating victims of abuse.

just my thoughts

Michael