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Post by dancingwind on Sept 24, 2005 5:18:54 GMT
Soul Mates The term Soul Mates means many things. These are soul that you have experienced with in past, paralle or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your soul experiencing at this time in another body. We are all have multidimensional beings - your soul having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all evolve from the same source of consciousness creation - we could say that we are all souls mates in a manner of speaking. Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete. Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that which they are experiencing elsewhere. Anyone who is in your biological family - or adopted family - or pseudo-family - is a soul mate to you. You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them. Karma is the responsibilites shared between soul mates.. Often souls mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends. The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child. Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother. Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you. Soul mates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you. Did you know that you often attract people into your life who look as you do in parallel or past lives? For example - you are a man seeking a female partner. You will seek out someone who looks and acts if you were a woman - like a mirror image. Your ideal partner is who you are in that physical body! We are always seeking ways to experience ourselves. Men often seek the goddess when searching for a mate - one who looks like the priestess - slim body, long flowing hair purity of soul - beauty and gentleness of creation that speaks to their soul of union with the female creational force. It is SHE who brings loves, guidance, compassion and reunion of your twin soul aspects. |
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 24, 2005 6:59:25 GMT
Dance of soulmates
Throughout expanses of time
O'er oceans and desolate sands
How I have traveled in search of thee,
Upon mistral winds your voice did beckon
Like a siren calls to the lost with her song
How I have listened to find thee,
In the visions of sages did your essence appear
Such as the beauty of the rising sky
How I have longed for the sight of thee,
Like an eager flower awaiting the rain
And the rumbling hunger of a forgotten child
How I have ached to be filled with the love of thee,
The abyss of solitude have I endured
For this recherché moment to arrive
when together again our Souls Dance |
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 24, 2005 7:00:59 GMT
I ask that this chant be blessed by my Spirit Guides, Angels, and Higher Power of Love and The Light:
I am (fill in your own name here)
I am unique and cherished
I am worthy of a life filled with
love, nurturing, joy, and security
I respect myself as I respect others
I will only partake of healthy relationships
I will only accept positive energy and people into my space
When I do love, I love fully and completely
and expect nothing but the same in return
I request your assistance with drawing a Companion Soulmate type partner to me (here you must illustrate this individual in words. Below are just examples. You must replace what I have written with your own criteria):
My partner will be tender
My partner will be intelligent
My partner will have blue eyes
My partner will be financially secure
My partner will love music and art
My partner will... Etc.
May we be united on Mother Earth so that we can formulate a union which is emotionally, spiritually, physically, and sexually fulfilling, committed, and enduring
I am thankful for my blessings
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 24, 2005 7:05:42 GMT
Ego, a Lousy Guide to a
Soulmate Relationship
Find your soulmate
If you are to utilize guidance to find a soulmate, the first thing you need to do is learn to tell the difference between the voice of your inner teacher and that of your ego.
This is not really difficult, since your guide and your ego espouse entirely different thought systems. Indeed, cultures throughout the world seem to resonate with the idea that there is a high-minded influence within us that argues in favor of love, humility, and forgiveness, and that it is opposed by another that urges us to be egotistical, selfish, and judgmental.
The cartoons of my childhood, for example, depicted what I am calling ego as a little red devil whispering malicious advice into a character's left ear, while a winged and haloed angel representing guidance spoke words of generosity and tolerance in the other.
Guide's Thinking Differs from Ego's
The simplest way to explain the difference between your guide's perspective and that of your ego is to say that the former believes that love is real and fear is not, while the latter believes that fear is real and love is not. It may surprise you to learn that your ego doesn't believe that love really exists, but it's true. Just think! When you allow your ego to direct your search for love, you are actually asking the only thing in the universe that doesn't know what love is, to find it for you. Talk about letting the inmates run the asylum!
How is it that our false self knows nothing about love? Well, that's the way we designed it. From a metaphysical perspective, the human mind invents an ego for the purpose of making love seem unreal.
And just why would we want to do such a silly thing? A number of spiritual traditions suggest that it is because God is love. They say we wanted to forget about our Creator for a while, so that we could play at being creators ourselves. And since everything that God creates is a perfect reflection of divine love, the only way we could generate an experience that would be uniquely our own was to make up an imperfect world where love's opposite -- fear -- would appear to rule.
Thus, fear is our own original contribution to an otherwise loving universe.The ego's problem is that any experience of love, however attenuated, threatens to trigger our memory of reality, and spoil the game we came here to play. Its job is to make sure that doesn't happen. Thus, we might compare the ego to the weight belt a scuba diver dons to counteract her natural buoyancy. If a diver took off her weight belt, she would quickly bob back up to the surface. If you and I released identification with our ego, we would quickly bob back up into reality; where it would be apparent that love is everywhere.
As long as we prefer to remain immersed in frightening illusions, our ego is necessary to filter every trace of love out of our perceptions -- no mean feat in a universe made entirely of love!
The fact is that whenever we genuinely care for anyone, we do bob back into reality, although usually only briefly. That's why being in love is so heavenly! It's like an all-expenses-paid vacation from fear. Our ego has to be extremely vigilant to nip this sort of thing in the bud. It knows very well that once we start loving, there is no telling where it might end. Today your dog or cat -- tomorrow the world!
Why Egos Seek Love
You'd think that if our false self is so intent upon preventing us from experiencing love, it would actively discourage our search for it, but this is not the case. Our ego doesn't just warn us not to trust those who care for us; it also inveighs against the horrors of a lonely old age. Indeed, far from being indifferent to love, our false self often seems almost obsessively concerned with finding it. To hear our ego tell it, no real happiness is possible in life until we unite with that "special someone" who alone can validate our worth, give meaning to our lives, and solve all our earthly problems.
What we need to understand is that our ego knows perfectly well that love is the only thing we really want or need. This leaves it with no alternative but to become embroiled in our search for a soulmate. If it said what it thinks -- that love doesn't really exist, and only fear is real -- we would very quickly see the absurdity of searching for fulfillment within a loveless illusion. At that point, our ego's whole world of distressing possibilities would be canceled for lack of interest -- and our ego along with it!
No, our false self can't induce us to remain in illusion by ignoring our desire for love. None of us is so deluded that we'd put up with that! So instead, it carries out its mission by offering to show us how to find love, and then making sure that we never do. Like a carnival scam artist, our ego assures us that there is no reason for us not to win the romantic jackpot on our very next try. But somehow it never seems to work out that way. There is actually no "danger" at all of finding a soulmate as long as we play the game by our ego's rules.
How can our false self guarantee that we will not stumble upon true love despite its interference? It can't. But what it can do is make it very difficult for us to recognize what we've found. Egos render love "invisible" in much the same way Siegfried and Roy make tigers disappear on stage in Las Vegas -- through the skillful misdirection of attention. First our false self reassigns the name "love" to something that poses no threat to it, and then it keeps us so busy searching for the wrong thing that we wouldn't notice the right one, even if we tripped over it.
I'll say more about the love substitute our ego keeps us searching for, but for now, let me just call it conditional love or infatuation. When your ego offers to help you find "love," it doesn't mean real love -- the unconditional kind that fills you, and those around you, with lasting joy and satisfaction. To find that kind of love you'd have to abandon your ego and relate only with your soul. No, the kind of love your ego has in mind for you is something quite different. Once you've become deeply embroiled in the search for it, your gaze will pass right over the real thing without a glimmer of recognition.
You see, the human romantic dilemma isn't that true love is so very hard to find, but that it is too ordinary to withstand comparison with the exotic illusions our ego offers in its place. In the same way that diamonds seem precious while the pure water we need in order to survive doesn't, we take love for granted and strain after the impossibly beautiful substitute our ego offers in its stead. Infatuation ravishes our senses, and seems to promise gratification beyond our wildest dreams. Unfortunately, when we mistake it for the genuine article, we slowly starve for love even as we seem to gorge ourselves on it. Real love is actually a pretty pedestrian affair, characterized by simple virtues like patience, forgiveness, tolerance, humor, gentleness, empathy, tact, honesty, discipline, and practical support. It is not heralded by a state of breathless exaltation, but by a sense of peaceful contentment. Chances are you've had many opportunities in your life for "true love" that you passed up without a backward glance.
The "Special" Relationship
A Course in Miracles contrasts the special relationship -- which is based upon infatuation -- with the holy relationship, which is grounded in real love. Special relationships are all about how love is supposed to be. In pursuit of them, we do our best to achieve a union where everything looks perfect, regardless of the way it feels. The ego's fantasy of "special love" involves a partner so obviously desirable that he or she reflects glory on us every time we are seen together. A suitably romantic courtship, during which both parties do a flawless portrayal of people in love, culminates in a fairy-tale perfect wedding. Then the lucky couple goes off to live happily ever after in the local equivalent of a palace, producing beautiful, trouble-free, high-achieving children, who reflect well on their parents. It will all be just perfect -- as long as everyone does their damndest to keep up appearances.
Unfortunately, concern with the outward appearance of a relationship always comes at the expense of content. It is exhausting to hold a pose for five minutes, much less a lifetime, and however "perfect" special relationships look from the outside, they leave the participants feeling empty and alone. Both know that they are valued only for the act they can put on, and that any attempt to reveal their true selves will be regarded as a breach of contract. As the Course points out, the special relationship is a very impressive frame, but the picture it holds is dark and depressing. Holy relationships (think wholesome relationships if you find the religious connotation off-putting) are achieved only when we forget about the frame (the way our union appears to others, all the social and material advantages it does or doesn't offer), and focus instead upon content (the glorious way it feels to be with someone we truly enjoy).
The holy relationships soulmates work to create don't necessarily look like anything out of the ordinary. Your friends aren't going to drop dead with envy when you walk into a room on the arm of a man or woman whose chief appeal lies is the fact that he or she really understands who you are, shares your enthusiasms, and enjoys hanging out with you. But being with such a person feels marvelous! You can finally stop smiling for the camera, let your belt out a notch or two, and be yourself. Are you beginning to see what I mean about real love being too ordinary to compete with our ego's dreams of achieving glory through the conquest of a very special partner?
In interviewing couples for this book, I've been repeatedly struck by the way people seem to reserve hyperbole for individuals who appeal to their egos. When soulmates describe their early impressions of each other, "nice" is the adjective that crops up most frequently. Nice feels awfully good, but it is of no use whatsoever to our ego in its quest for glory.
In closing, I'd like to point out one other interesting feature of soulmate relationships -- the way everything else seems to fall into place once we make love our first priority. The Bible says, "Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven, and all else shall be added unto you."
The literal truth of this statement is repeatedly demonstrated in soulmate unions where someone gives up "everything" for love, and then winds up getting it all anyway. Karen, for example, thought she needed a man who was rich and successful. By choosing to love and marry her soulmate, despite the fact that he was poor and unsuccessful, that's exactly what she got. Invest in the picture that brings you joy, and the universe may just throw in the frame for free!
GUIDELINES FOR ACTUALIZING A SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP
1. Look for the sort of person you'd want as a best friend even if you weren't attracted to her or him sexually.
2. Don't cultivate a relationship with someone "superior" whose love appears to "elevate" you in some way, but with an equal you enjoy.
3. Remember that your soul won't be satisfied with anything less than true love. Accept no substitutes!
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Post by stef on Sept 24, 2005 10:47:26 GMT
Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete. You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them. Soul mates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you. Wow! I've got loads of soul mates ;D ;D love you all stef  |
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 24, 2005 14:22:16 GMT
Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete. You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them. Soul mates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you. Wow! I've got loads of soul mates ;D ;D love you all stef Dear Stef! Yes, I too , there are some. But I´m still looking for men as my soulmate but until now, have hard luck.  I visualize this for me, it is one thing on my "Wish-List" ;D with love and hugs Brigitte |
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Post by Mickuk on Sept 25, 2005 4:52:26 GMT
Hi Brigitte, Very intersting thread  i had a soul mate for a few months then she dumped me, very strange connection and not fun at all. Now i have another one who is down to earth and great fun she keeps me going ;D love, Mick hey the energy is off again spirit works in strange ways |
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Post by chynacariba on Sept 25, 2005 19:56:11 GMT
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Post by Michael on Sept 25, 2005 22:10:50 GMT
Lots of soulmates pass thru your life. If you're like me - into being in a rockband - you come across lots of soul mates some that you earn, some that I guess you deserve... love Michael |
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 26, 2005 4:30:16 GMT
Dear C.C! Didn´t know the site, very interesting.... Thanks honey.. ;D love, Brigitte |
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Post by stef on Sept 26, 2005 8:50:57 GMT
Sometimes in life, you find a special friend:
Someone who changes your life by being a part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop:
Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.
This is forever friendship.
When you’re down, and the world seems dark and empty.
Your forever friend lifts you up in spirit
And makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full.
If you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete.
You have a forever friend for life.
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Post by dancingwind on Sept 26, 2005 11:10:36 GMT
Sometimes in life, you find a special friend: Someone who changes your life by being a part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop: Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. This is forever friendship. When you’re down, and the world seems dark and empty. Your forever friend lifts you up in spirit And makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. If you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete. You have a forever friend for life. Find those kind of Friends also in here. ;D ;D much love, Brigitte |
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Post by stef on Nov 23, 2005 10:36:48 GMT
Soul Companions
These are souls who have been comrades, friends, brothers-at-arms or women friends through many lifetimes. Your relationship with them may include, but will not be complicated by sexual attraction and their trust and love goes deep and is without judgement. You know and accept each other for who you are and there is a certain feeling of peace which comes from just knowing that this companion is on the planet, even if geographical distance may come between you. The thread of friendship is always picked up when you meet, as if life has made no difference to your steadfast affection even though it has taken you in opposite directions. We may end up living with or even marrying a soul companion, since it is someone we feel comfortable with, who doesn’t push our buttons and provides a stable home base, perhaps for the soul to deal with other issues. It also happens that we get lives of respite from intense soul drama. Time on earth lived in peace and quiet gives us the chance to appreciate the wonder of it. |
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Post by anitaflaca on Feb 12, 2009 17:03:23 GMT
Hi , just finished reading Soul Mates wow I never knew what soul mates really meant. I am so glad that I read this helps me understand what my life is really about who I really am and what I should do with my soul and ego . Thank you Anitaflaca
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i had a soul mate for a few months then she dumped me, very strange connection and not fun at all.
