Post by Veggiechef on May 14, 2010 3:24:21 GMT
Mastering Alchemy: Practical Tools for Managing the Shift
Choosing Happy
By Jim Self
The concept of choosing your feelings may sound odd. Feelings are feelings, right?
They just happen to us. Well, we can in fact choose how we experience our emotions.
We are not victims to the energy that moves through us, the energy in motion, our emotions.
Sure, they happen instantly and unconsciously at first, like a wave that
rushes through the body...until we decide to increase our awareness and be the
creators of our lives, instead of the victims. Choosing does not mean suppressing or
denying how you really feel. Grief, anger, sadness, fear... they all play profoundly
important roles as message-bearers. Feeling it, acknowledging it, and then choosing
something new is key. Ignoring emotions or slapping a happy band-aid on them may
keep them submerged where they could fester, keep you stuck, alter your
perceptions, and make you sick.
Rose is in constant overwhelm. She loves what she does and she does it well; however
there is more and more and more to DO. She is working 12-15 hours a day, every day
and she is wearing down emotionally. Her biggest nemesis is her equipment. Her PC is
crashing, her printer chews up paper and her CD duplicator rejects discs she knows
are fine. Rose has deadlines to meet and her equipment is out to get her. She is losing
her amusement and feels anxiety most of the time. Last Wednesday she had a fullblown
crying meltdown when the fax machine jammed. Rose was ready to quit it all
and die. Friday something changed. Rose took the morning off and played. She
recognized a strange and unfamiliar emotion and consciously chose to call it Happy-
Ease. When she finally entered her office at 1pm, she felt better than ever. It was
time to call the equipment companies. Well - she was shocked at the results. The
computer guy had an easy fix and the duplicator just began to work perfectly all by
itself! The printer began to print. And the fax-faxed! The connection between her
mood and the mood of her equipment was undeniable. Now Rose sets her tone before
entering her office and steps away if she notices feelings that don't feel good. Her
overwhelm and anxiety are disappearing and she's experiencing more Happy-Ease.
Self-Coaching Tool:
Wear the Word. The habit of being victim to our emotions is strongly engrained in our
belief systems. And we must choose differently if we are to become the leaders,
healers and mentors we came here to be. Try this:
1 - Begin to consciously notice times when you are feeling lousy and the results
around you. There IS a direct relationship. Then notice times when you feel great and
how that affects your world.
2 - Write a list of words that you would like to experience (no analyzing, judging or
censoring - just be wild and write down anything).
3 - Each day, close your eyes and randomly place a finger on one word. Wear that
word all day, like a coat or hat. It may be uncomfortable or strange at first. Just play
and be easy as you do this. You are re-wiring your internal system to become more
fully who you truly are.
Choosing Happy
By Jim Self
The concept of choosing your feelings may sound odd. Feelings are feelings, right?
They just happen to us. Well, we can in fact choose how we experience our emotions.
We are not victims to the energy that moves through us, the energy in motion, our emotions.
Sure, they happen instantly and unconsciously at first, like a wave that
rushes through the body...until we decide to increase our awareness and be the
creators of our lives, instead of the victims. Choosing does not mean suppressing or
denying how you really feel. Grief, anger, sadness, fear... they all play profoundly
important roles as message-bearers. Feeling it, acknowledging it, and then choosing
something new is key. Ignoring emotions or slapping a happy band-aid on them may
keep them submerged where they could fester, keep you stuck, alter your
perceptions, and make you sick.
Rose is in constant overwhelm. She loves what she does and she does it well; however
there is more and more and more to DO. She is working 12-15 hours a day, every day
and she is wearing down emotionally. Her biggest nemesis is her equipment. Her PC is
crashing, her printer chews up paper and her CD duplicator rejects discs she knows
are fine. Rose has deadlines to meet and her equipment is out to get her. She is losing
her amusement and feels anxiety most of the time. Last Wednesday she had a fullblown
crying meltdown when the fax machine jammed. Rose was ready to quit it all
and die. Friday something changed. Rose took the morning off and played. She
recognized a strange and unfamiliar emotion and consciously chose to call it Happy-
Ease. When she finally entered her office at 1pm, she felt better than ever. It was
time to call the equipment companies. Well - she was shocked at the results. The
computer guy had an easy fix and the duplicator just began to work perfectly all by
itself! The printer began to print. And the fax-faxed! The connection between her
mood and the mood of her equipment was undeniable. Now Rose sets her tone before
entering her office and steps away if she notices feelings that don't feel good. Her
overwhelm and anxiety are disappearing and she's experiencing more Happy-Ease.
Self-Coaching Tool:
Wear the Word. The habit of being victim to our emotions is strongly engrained in our
belief systems. And we must choose differently if we are to become the leaders,
healers and mentors we came here to be. Try this:
1 - Begin to consciously notice times when you are feeling lousy and the results
around you. There IS a direct relationship. Then notice times when you feel great and
how that affects your world.
2 - Write a list of words that you would like to experience (no analyzing, judging or
censoring - just be wild and write down anything).
3 - Each day, close your eyes and randomly place a finger on one word. Wear that
word all day, like a coat or hat. It may be uncomfortable or strange at first. Just play
and be easy as you do this. You are re-wiring your internal system to become more
fully who you truly are.