Another relationship ends

[Danny]

Hello it's me again,

I've not done any creative writing in ages, and I do enjoy tapping away on the keys, sharing my soul.

I'm grieving for the loss of a relationship, to a woman I loved dearly. She rang me up yesterday, and in a brief exchange, told me that she no longer wanted to be with me. I didn't see it coming nor do I fully understand it. I do know that I'm so tired of feeling this emptiness and pain. What am I doing wrong? What's wrong with me? (rhetorical questions). I know that I'm not a bad guy, nor do I control my partners or diminish them in any way. I allow them space to grow and support, encourage and share on their journey

I know that I'll get through this, and I usually tell people in this situation that they will grow through the pain etc.
I really don't want to open myself up to love anymore though. It just hurts so bad.

I know this post is a bit of a 'pity party', but hey, I'm only human.

They say it's better to have loved than lost, than never to have loved at all. What say you..?

Thanks for reading,
Danny

[Lightwanderer]

Don't worry Danny.
Feeling hurt is a proof that you can love and that you are a normal human being.
Been there.. it took my a while to get over it.. but at the end all the pain and sorrow pass and leave place for new love to enter your life.

/lw

[Danny]

Thanks lightwanderer,

You are right, of course. I'm just not seeing things as clearly as I normally do.

Best wishes,
Danny

[Lightwanderer]

As I said, I've been there so I know your pain.
Give your heart time to heal, but don't be afraid to love.
Some people are meant to be together for life,
some are together only for a while. Just be grateful for
the good time you had and feel assure you will have all
that once more, with a new person and in all of the sudden
everything will feel right again.. I know.. it worked out fine for me
and I am sure it will work out fine for you too.

[Danny]

More words of wisdom from you, my friend...

[holistik77]

I'm sorry to hear this.
My spiritual teacher ever told me that, when somebody reach their spiritual path, the divine source/energy will guide them to the highest good. So, maybe...this is the way of divine source/energy, to guide you....and I'm sure, you will find another woman who is greater and match to be your forever soulmate. I'm sure you'll be happier, maybe not now, but tomorrow or in the future. Be strong and don't forget to do self healing, buddy

[Monica]

My dear friend,

You're doing nothing wrong and you know it . LW said so well in his posts what I also think. I unfortunately know what you've been through, I know only you can decide to move on, one day.
You'll open to love again, this is how it has to be . I've been thinking about it for the last months and I have a couple of theories I can share with you, if you want.
It wasn't meant to be this time, my friend and I am sorry for that. But it will be. Always here for you.


With love,
Monica

[sidney33]

Dear Danny
You made me think of my dear old Dad now long gone. Now I am old and now I understand when I think back. He said each woman was another life time remember her and move on. Some men only have one life time how lucky you are to have more than one. And he was right it took some time and a lot of good and bad till I found the one .I have been married to for forty years now and its nice to think back. And I would do it all again cheers Sidney.

[Danny]

Thanks Sidney, your post made me smile.

Love and hugs

[Danny]

Mar 8, 2011 7:27:24 GMT Monica said:

My dear friend,

You're doing nothing wrong and you know it . LW said so well in his posts what I also think. I unfortunately know what you've been through, I know only you can decide to move on, one day.
You'll open to love again, this is how it has to be . I've been thinking about it for the last months and I have a couple of theories I can share with you, if you want.
It wasn't meant to be this time, my friend and I am sorry for that. But it will be. Always here for you.


With love,
Monica

Hello Monica,

The pain has prompted more inner work and soul reflection. I feel lighter and more free today as a direct result.

Love and hugs,
Danny

[stef]

I have found this poem to be SO true................

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

[kara]

Hello Danny,
I am sending you hugs and I understand, please know that you are a beautiful luminous soul with deep value, although there is pain and loss
this will be your year, because you will make it your year, something will change and grow within you now and in your life now that she has left remember always that this person did
not have the capacity to see your true gold and there is an open doorway now awaiting you with your true souls purpose to help yourself, to help others, to bring happiness & fullfillement to yourself and to bring happiness and fullfillement to other who are worthy. xox
kara